(Quotations from The Tao Te Ching) He who has achieved this state Is unconcerned with friends and enemies, With good and harm, with honor and disgrace. This therefore is the highest state of man. (56) (Quotations from Daniel Matt) judism God lavishes according to the divine force. The one receiving, however, is bounded. So God lavishes the good immeasurably ... although the created receiver cannot receive it -- unless he is completely shattered, and then repaired through his desire to return to the limitless source, to become one with the divinity. Thereby the creature realizes himself, attaining the perfection of the Creator, transcending the boundary of the created. This would be impossible -- were it not for the overflowing goodness, beyond one's capacity to receive. (p. 128) Jesus: Except a corn of wheat fall into the ground and die, it abideth alone: but if it die, it bringeth forth much fruit. He that loveth his life shall lose it; and he that hateth his life in this world shall keep it unto life eternal. (John 12:24-25)
(Quotations from John of the Cross) If a man is to enter this Divine union, all that lives in his soul must die, both little and much, small and great, and that the soul must be without desire for all this, and detached from it, even as though it existed not for the soul, neither the soul for it. (Book 1, Chapter 11, Paragraph 8)
For when love is pure, you consider yourself as worthless, see yourself as dead and as nothing, and present yourself to God as dead and putrid. (p. 193)